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Happy Sunday lovely ones

Just 9 days left until the joy of Christmas…or maybe that should be the challenge of Christmas?

Maybe door 16 is hiding something that can help keep you on the side of joy rather than challenge…

Step forward Marshall Rosenberg and Non-Violent Communication (NVC)

NVC is a system of communicating that avoids the use of blame and instead focusses on feelings and needs.  It can feel a little stilted to start with but when you focus on how you are feeling and what you need, as opposed to what somebody else has done or not done, it’s possible to resolve conflicts.

To get you started, have a look at these lists of feelings and needs and think about how few words we tend to use to describe how we’re feeling (I’m okay, I’m good, I’m a little out of sorts, I’m annoyed, frustrated, fed up etc…but rarely depleted, enlivened, mystified, dismayed)

Feelings inventory
Needs inventory

And here’s a couple of videos with the Grandaddy of NVC, Marshall Rosenberg, explaining how it works:

Part 1
Part 2
Part 3

This is a really basic introduction but if this is interesting to you, go search youtube and google for Marshall Rosenberg and there you’ll find a whole slew of resources.